Suppose you’ve burned your arm a year ago. It was a very painful experience but ask yourself if the pain still exists. You surely don’t feel anything.

You still remember what happened, but the pain no longer exists. Why can’t we act like this with others and with ourselves?

Fights and hurt feelings are bad for those who suffer and for those who caused it. Even after some time, when you remember what happened, you realize that these emotions are still alive: the hatred, anger, resentment and pain are still very much alive inside of you. At this moments, is common to feel a desire for revenge, a desire to make the other person experience all that you felt or are still feeling. You start t think: “He stole my health, my money and my joy of livng.”

These negative feelings have the potential to cause a major destruction. They are behind most of the diseases, poisoning us slowly, making us a sad, aggrieved and angry person. We must realize that these conflicts and grievances aren’t caused by other people or outside circumstances, but for our own feelings and attitudes about people and events around us.

We could act just like we did with the burning: it was a bad thing, but I’m over it. Often times we know exactly why we suffer, and even though having a rational consciousness of suffering we can’t get rid of it. It’s not always easy to forgive those who hurt or betrayed us, but that’s the only way to rid ourselves of negative emotions that poison our hearts.

Forgiveness is a process of abandoning the link with the past, managing to move on. When we release our pain, we stop being connected to the past and became more free to experience the real happiness and inner peace. We are divine healers. We just have to respect other’s beliefs and learn to forgive yourself. Doing this, you’ll receive everything.

Three years ago I decided to use age regressions for forgiveness’ treating. Forgiveness is a power that we all have, but during these years I realized that even knowing it, people still face many difficulties. From this, I created a therapeutic approach that helps people clean all negative events, even those ones we aren’t aware, but are responsible for how we act.

I myself used this treatment and saw the most difficult situations, even the ones that seemed impossible, just falling apart, giving place to various opportunities for me and my family. I’ve learned that it is not enough to forgive or be forgiven, you must forgive yourself first. When nothing seems to work, you can be sure that FORGIVENESS RESOLVES IT ALL.

“The real secret to be happy with yourself and others is to forgive”

Myriam Durante
Psychotherapist